According to the author Deborah Tannen the article, Sex, Lies, and conversation" is about how differently men and women percieve conversation in their relationship. She states that lack of conversation is wreaking havoc within marriages. this is due to the fact that men and women have very different expectations of communication. Tannen describes how differences in communication start in the childhood socialization. For young girls, conversation is the cornerstone of friendship. By sharing secrets, thoughtsm …showed first 75 words of 424 total…

…showed last 75 words of 424 total…see their conversational role as pointing out the other side of the argument. Women don't mind another point of view, as long as it is in the form of a suggestion or inquiry. So, all these differences in this essay, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation," begin to clarify why men and women have such different expectations of communication in marriage. Deborah Tannen suggests, once men and women understand these differences, improvement in communication will come naturally.